Hi, I’m Rosalie
I work with those who are wanting to pick up the pieces and move forward after a life setback, whether that be a relationship loss or a career curveball. I also work with exhausted professional mums to ensure they include themselves in their daily routine. I do this through my step-by-step live online programs where I guide you with confidence, clarity and compassion to shine brightly again.
Hi, I’m Rosalie………..
“I’m happily married”.
It was a sunny Saturday afternoon and I was sitting at a local pub, having a drink with an old high school friend who I’d recently seen at a reunion.
I’d suggested we meet at this place and time so I could fit it in, in-between my children’s basketball games - that’s how my life was then, fitting myself in, in-between things.
As those words came out of my mouth, my whole body told me they were a lie.
Even though I was sitting down my body went heavy and limp and there was a sinking feeling in my gut. My body felt drained as a whirlpool of emotions took over - horror, surprise, shame, guilt and betrayal.
I hid my face for a moment so that my facial expression didn’t betray me further. The rest of the conversation went in one ear and out the other – I wasn’t listening.
But instead of facing my truth, I did what most of us do. I ignored the message because it meant I had to make a change. I was exhausted and didn’t think I could add one more thing to my already hectic schedule. I had become great at blaming others, was resentful and was wanting to “fix” them….
Whilst I voiced my concerns, little changed and I continued to stay. I became increasingly destructive to myself, my family and the business I had built from scratch. My life and business was crumbling around me.
You see, I had spent my life catering to everyone else’s needs and ignored the fact that my own needs weren’t being met. I believed that love had to be earnt - by earning more, doing more and achieving more. I was great at collecting gold stars and ticking things off my “to do” list as a way of earning my worth and the love of others around me.
I had learnt to stay silent about what I wanted because I wanted to keep the peace and avoid conflict.
I had also learnt to stick it out.
I’d learnt these things because they kept me safe as a kid - from an alcoholic father and an emotionally distant mother.
Even though I had one foot out the door for several years ….. on the one hand our relationship felt familiar and comfortable, a bit like living with a sibling, yet on the other I was terrified of leaving and trusting in myself that I’d be OK.
I left my 20+ year marriage and then Covid-19 hit - I had to close my business for a while during lockdowns and figure out what was next.
I invested in coaching… and it was through this coaching that I realised that my needs and desires were just as important as everyone else’s.
It took me a year before I made the extremely difficult decision to liquidate the business I had built from scratch. The shame I felt was massive - I’d not experienced anything like it before. Getting out of bed was a win for the day. The business had been my responsibility and it was in bad shape because of the poor financial choices I had made over the past few years as my marriage was crumbling. Covid-19 was simply the icing on the cake.
Coaching allowed me to regain trust in myself and has guided me back to being on course to creating and living the life I desire. It hasn’t been easy at times nor has it been a straight line - I’ve felt shame, depression, anxiety AND I’ve felt joy, authenticity, love, peace and freedom. It’s led me to be the flawsome human that I am today. And it has certainly been MUCH easier having a coach and a support system knowing that I wasn’t alone.
Because coaching assisted me so much, I invested further and made the decision to become a coach myself. Now I have the joy of being able to help, guide and support others in their journey to regain their shine.
You can create the life you desire and be a flawsome human.
It will be my honour to guide you.